Birthday Night

On Thursday night we celebrated our youngest child’s birthday. Today is her actual birthday. She was 3 years old at 2 am this morning πŸ™‚

We celebrated with cake (and ice-cream which I left in the freezer). While we did not have a “party” our oldest son and his family joined us, along with one set of grandparents (who live nearby) and a dear friend who happened to be in the area.

I used to have bigger parties for our children. But to be honest, I usually got so uptight and stressed making the plans that the party wasn’t enjoyable for me (or anyone else). The “party” day would usually end with me having a horrible headache and with the feeling that things didn’t go well.

As time passed, and as I have grown older (and maybe wiser???) I have realized that I do not have to do the big “themed” parties. We can make their day just as special by scaling back on the “party” but still focus on how special each of them is to the family. We celebrate how God created each one uniquely and how God placed each one in our family for a reason. How privileged we feel that God chose us to be their parents.

Some parents are really talented in this area of hosting birthday parties. They give these awesome parties and don’t get uptight or stressed out and everyone really enjoys the party. I love going to these parties. My kids have had a great time at these parties.

My hat goes off to these parents and I truly admire their talent for hosting such parties.

For the past few years, we have been giving our children a choice of either going out to eat at a restaurant of their choice, or stay home and have their favorite meal along with what ever desert they would like to have. (I have some children who do not like cake or cupcakes, they would rather have cookies or something different)

We still do parties to celebrate the milestones that each of our children reach. So far, all of our children have had big parties to celebrate their 1st birthdays and the 3 oldest have had big parties to celebrate turning 5 (we are not there yet with our youngest and she may or may not have a party ;). We did not get to have a big party to celebrate the oldest turning 16 partly due to the fact that our youngest was only 4 weeks old at the time (and I just couldn’t do it). However, we did take him and a friend out to eat (and we put on a pretty big shin-dig when he graduated high school, so I’m not a total failure, lol). Β Then when the second child turned 16, I didn’t plan a party but her grandmother did. Who knows what will happen with the other two.

This is how we celebrated our youngest one turning 3 this year.

Our oldest daughter made the cake.

I'm one thankful momma! There's no way I would have been able to make this!
I’m one thankful momma! There’s no way I would have been able to make this!

A princess cake of course.

Our youngest son was in charge of the decorations. I didn’t get a good picture of the decorations but he did a great job.

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She opened a few gifts.

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She was a very happy little princess.

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You know what?

When we do these small celebrations and give the siblings a chance to get involved in making the day special for the birthday person….great things happen.

When we give the siblings a chance to get involved....great things happen. Click To Tweet

This could possibly help them develop a desire to serve others. They get a taste of what it means to give of themselves, to give of their time in order to bring happiness to someone’s day. They get to experience what it is like to make someone feel special because of the effort they put into it.

Turns out that everyone is a winner!

What special things do you do to celebrate your children’s birthdays?Β 

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24 thoughts on “Birthday Night

  1. I am really enjoying your blog!! Reading it is a pleasure and not just because it is my family. So glad we are close by and get to be there for these important events. Very well written and food for thought.

  2. I think you are very wise for not doing a big themed birthday every year. I truly believe it’s healthier to have maybe a few of those, which will be remembered and appreciated more later than if they were the expected yearly fare, and doing the family things like you described, which help knit you together and enjoy each other’s uniqueness. Many happy (family) birthdays to you and yours in all your future years!

  3. Children don’t need fancy parties they just need love. Getting the children involved you are teaching them to be thoughtful people and we need more of those in the world. thanks for sharing with us at #Overthemoon link up.

  4. I love doing big parties for my kids, but it used to get exhausting doing everything myself. Instead of buying our kids a bunch of gifts for their birthdays, we like to give them an experience. Sooo, I started delegating! Just like you mentioned, I corral up the siblings and get them involved in making it happen. They usually love helping and their contribution is the gift. We take lots of pictures and have looked through them over the years and reminisced. As they are getting older (over 13) I’m definitely seeing the value in smaller parties though! Thanks for sharing this at Monday Musings!

  5. Hi Renee! Having the other children pitch in is always a great idea! I can’t even imagine having my youngest as a 3 year old (we’re still in the drool-y, goober stage), but I’m sure it’ll be bittersweet πŸ™‚
    It looks like the party was a success, and I also love the idea of having celebrations small and meaningful! Memories don’t need to be made with fancy frills & fluff! πŸ™‚
    Thank you for sharing, and thank you so much for your kind words on my library bags! πŸ™‚
    I hope you have a wonderful rest of the week!

  6. Birthday celebrations were not a big deal when I was growing up. We had our favorite meal along with cake and ice cream with a few presents and that was it. I have wonderful memories of those birthdays. We have gone this route with our son except for his 1st and 10th birthdays. Kids don’t remember all the work that went into the party, they have the memories to remember. I love the idea of simple celebrations. Thanks for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

    1. Lori, most of my birthdays were never a huge deal. I did have a surprise birthday party when I turned 16 but other than that, nothing too big. I have good memories of the simple times.

  7. Happy, happy birthday to your youngest! I can’t believe she’s already 3! And I love the cake! It’s so cute and very well done. Thanks for sharing! #SmallVictories

  8. Hey Sis!, I loved the blog as always! Alaina did so good on the cake and it looks like Sophia had a blast!! I was just remembering when we were kids and I think some of the best birthday celebrations I remember having we’re when we just had a cake and some of our family members came over, like Aunt Deb, Dez, and Matt and whoever else! 😊 I love the idea of simple celebrations! You do a good job! Love you much!!

  9. I was never into the huge parties that some people throw for their kids. I tried to do little things throughout the day to make it special and give them their choice of meal and dessert. It is not how large the party, but the thought and love that goes into it. Thanks for sharing at Let’s Get Real Friday Party.

  10. Visiting from #OpenMicMonday. Love small birthdays. I’m also not talented in the cake-making, decorating etc.: I order from my friend’s cupcake making business – she always makes a beautiful cake for our girls and it’s a great way to support her business. So far, we’ve kept things small (at home, just family helping out): mine are 3 and 5. And we have some wonderful memories of happy celebrations. This is so true too: “When we do these small celebrations and give the siblings a chance to get involved in making the day special for the birthday person….great things happen.” My kids love decorating the house for my or my husband’s birthday.

    1. Anna, If my daughter weren’t so talented in the baking area, I would also be ordering cakes or cupcakes. It’s great that you have a friend who you can order from. I love supporting small businesses, especially when the owner is a friend of mine. Thanks for stopping by!

  11. I agree so much with this post! I always overdid it with parties thinking it was what the kids wanted, but I also was so stressed and anxious it was not enoyable. I totally would do it differently now. Live & learn! Thank you for sharing at #HomeMattersParty

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